When I was younger, I used to write “PROs and CONs” papers. If I had a situation — like a crush — I would grab a piece of scrap paper, draw a line down the middle, and write: PROs on one side. CONs on the other. Then I would start listing everything out. At the time, it felt simple.Almost silly. But I learned something very important. If you aren’t doing it honestly — simply because you really want the situation or person to be a pro — it doesn’t end well. When You Like Som